I decided not to take a big cabinet job — was this in my best interest? What was the lesson in not accepting this project?

The lesson is to listen to your heart. You were observant to what is yours to do. Not committing to something that doesn’t feel right in your gut was the wisest choice. Considering an unfavorable outcome for both you and the customer was insightful. It left you room for more joyous things to do. You are feeling much lighter now. Make all your decisions this way: pay attention to how you feel before you commit.